Hi everyone and welcome to my blog! Let me start off by telling you a little about me:
I am a 28 year old Jamaican woman who decided I wanted to have a baby. I am not married but I have been with my boyfriend for the past 4 years. For the past few months now I have been feeling that “baby call” and a few weeks ago I decided to answer. On July 22 I sent my boyfriend some texts:
Me: I’m sorry <boyfriend’s name> but i don’t want to wait any longer i’m ready now.
Boyfriend: Ready 4 wat
Me: Ready to start trying.
Boyfriend: Try to do wat
Me: Try to have a baby. Lawd <boyfriend’s name> y yuh pretending like u don’t know what i’m talking about.
As you can see, he’s such a jerk! LOL..he knew exactly what I was talking about . Anyway, after my last text he calls me and tells me that he knew what I was talking but he wanted to make sure. I honestly thought he was going to say no, he wasn’t ready since he’s only 25 and none of his friends have gotten kids yet. So, imagine my surprise when he said that he’d been ready for a while but was waiting on me! It felt so good to hear him say that.
Hence, this blog. I’m imagining that my trying to conceive (TTC) experience will be pretty trying because of the following:
1. I had to have an abortion 7 years ago because of some complications.
2. I have ovarian cyst(s) [I'm not sure if it's more than one] and a small fibroid (the last time I checked which was over a year ago). When I have sex now, especially in certain positions, I feel pain in the right side of my abdomen. I suspect it is caused by the cysts and/or fibroid.
3. I had in a copper IUD for 7 years.
4. My boyfriend cum does not stay in me.
5. I am almost 30.
6. I want a child so bad!
I hope I have convinced you to follow along with me on my journey, I would love to read your comments/support/criticisms, etc. Anything will be appreciated. Bless you all.
September 30, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Hey girl….you will conceive in the right time. Since you guys have decided to start a family, why not get married and start your family in that union. God will lead you. Best of luck on your venture.
September 30, 2009 at 8:19 pm
@Kitten, I would LOVE to get married. But I don’t want to be the one to do the asking. I have this dream of being proposed to in a very special way so I’m holding out to see if he’s going to make the first move or not. I wanted to wait until I got married b4 starting to TTC but I don’t want to risk never having children as I’ve read about so many women.
October 1, 2009 at 10:28 am
Age or nothing else is no barrier, whatever will be SHALL be. If that guy is solid, truly unattached and basically loves you for YOU, then he should not have a problem in proposing. Don’t be disappointed though if he doesn’t in your timing, he might be, among other things, scared, have not very good influences (friends), worried that he might not be good for you etc. Remember guys have their own fears and uncertainty too and also go through tormenting though processing for making lifelong decisions.
October 30, 2009 at 10:39 am
Hey there! TTC is really a journey. You can only do so much. Trust me I’m trying now myself after a miscarriage this summer. There is a lot of info out there but there is only so much you can do. Hang in there!